Divorce often garners a negative stigma as the easy way out for couples that don’t want to put any time or effort into salvaging their relationships. However, in most cases, the relationship has been damaged beyond repair and divorce is the only viable option. The hard part is determining when a relationship is irreparable.
A recent article in Psychology Today could possibly serve as a valuable resource for West Michigan men and women, helping them learn the indicators of a truly toxic marriage and when divorce is the only viable option.
While any relationship will experience its rough patches, the consistent presence of the following relational dynamics can be major red flags.
- Overcome by negative energy: When feelings of negativity are beginning to far outweigh positive feelings, it is a sign of a toxic relationship. Often, spouses can feel like they’re making some progress, only to be dragged down into the mire of negative energy and feelings once again.
- Avoidance: A toxic relationship doesn’t always include active conflicts. Avoidance is also very common in poor relationships. Whether one spouse avoids emotional or physical intimacy, or just refuses to work on the relationship at all, it is not a good sign for the relationship whatsoever.
- Conflict: Criticism and contempt are more obvious telltale signs of a poor relationship. Finding faults in a spouse and harboring a grudge is simply not constructive and will do nothing for a marriage.
Not everyone is willing to take notice of these dynamics in their relationship. It can be hard to admit that a marriage is a failure. While a person’s first priority should be to try to salvage a marriage if possible, remaining in a toxic relationship can be both unfulfilling and downright dangerous.
If divorce is the answer, make sure you take the right steps by working with a qualified attorney. They will make sure to protect your best interests throughout the process.
Source: Psychology Today, “Criticism, Avoidance, and Negativity: How They Destroy Love?” Jeffrey Bernstein, Ph.D, Dec. 8, 2014