Divorcing parents don’t always have to sort through their issues in court

When divorcing spouses do not see eye-to-eye, children involved often get caught in the cross-hairs. While husband and wife may be at odds over a variety of topics, dealing with child custody and parenting plans often become the primary battles.

A divorcing couple might turn to the courts to make a final decision, as they state their case regarding their children’s best interests. Putting parents at odds with each other can have a detrimental effect on children who witness this unnecessary bickering.

A social worker recently blogged about this scenario, offering a variety of points to consider if you find yourself in this situation.

While the family court system is designed to help resolve conflicts, it can often stoke the fires of a heated argument. Attempting to resolve family disputes in court may not produce the intended or desired outcome.

Still, addressing family disputes in court can be considered the appropriate route when an element of danger is involved. This might include an abusive relationship or a marriage where one spouse completely undermines the other within a parenting plan.

Courts involve judges and lawyers, who are trained to handle legal matters. Parental disputes are not always legal matters. Often, both parents and children can benefit more from an alternative dispute resolution process  rather than simply going to court with their problems.

When it comes to finding the right family law experts, make sure to vet them diligently to find the best fit. Be mindful that particularly litigious lawyers might promote conflict.

This does not mean you should avoid hiring experienced legal counsel and try to resolve your parenting disputes on your own. Legal professionals will help guide you through the sometimes complicated and difficult process.